We got an e-mail a few days ago from the orphanage facilitator/physician. Apparently, the attorney in charge of International Adoption is out for "a few weeks" for paternity leave. GREAT. So, even though our paperwork is translated, it is stuck on his desk until he returns. Once he gives the OK, it is passed on to the Orphanage Ministry Officials. And we continue to wait. SO, I guess we are not going to Serbia anytime too soon. Bummer. The only positive is that it is nice to plan Christmas knowing we will be here. It will make life a bit harder financially next year because we won't get our money back in April now. Oh well. I will just plan my "due date" for the end of January and go from there.
Max was sick with the flu last week which is always worrisome. But he is doing good now. A few days ago, he had his psychological evaluation to determine his development levels. They wanted to have new, updated info to give the officials when our paperwork gets to them. The physician said, "he was so good. He needs a forever family ASAP so he can start Early Intervention." She is such a wonderful woman.
I am glad he is not (and NEVER will be) in a institution there. My heart was broken as I looked at the recent articles and photos of Serbian Institutions. I am glad God can see the big picture, because it is an awful life here on earth for some children. I told one of my friends that I just want to adopt 50 children and open my own home here to give them better care. The truth is that the change needs to start with community awareness there. If the only choice being presented to women there is abortion or orphanage, they do not have the supports in place to help parents raise their children at home and in public schools. Perhaps, I should bring 50 parents and physicians here to see how much love our children bring and how amazing they are. I bet showing them my 5 year old who can read, would blow their minds!!! Oh, how I am blessed. My children are truly the reason I breathe everyday. All 3 of them have taught me SO much in such a short time. I look forward to my future with them (Max included)!
Monday, November 12, 2007
After 2 full weeks our paperwork finally made it to Serbia. It is being translated into Serbian right now. The Social Worker for Max is starting his paperwork today to get him "cleared for adoption." It could take a month, 2 months or even 3. We'll see. We got new pictures of him and I can't believe how much he has changed from 7 months (the last pics we had) to 10 months! It really makes me wish I was there seeing the changes. His hair has grown in and he looks so much older. I can't wait until he's ours so we can post pictures of him. He is really tiny but in his pictures he looks very proportionate, not skinny. At 10 months old, he is only 12 lbs, 12 oz. We can fix that. My 3 year old is an eater and he will show him how! lol
The facilitator/physician at the orphanage asked us to bring books on Down syndrome. She said the orphanage is getting more and more children with DS. She wants to learn more about it and teach her fellow physicians. I think this is a great teaching opportunity. I hope it helps some of the doctors realize having a child with DS is not gloom and doom. (As they typically tell parents.) We have so many friends who were told about their child's diagnosis in very unpleasant and out-dated ways. Maybe, over time, things will change in Serbia and more therapies and opportunities will become available for our kids. I would love to see the number of children with disabilities coming into the orphanage decrease in the future. And NOT because of abortion but because more moms and dads have the supports in place to raise their children at home. I don't know how to convey my appreciation for the life I am blessed with. My children are amazing, wild and crazy sometimes, but amazing. =-) I would never change them!